As a qualified nurse, I had been working for a number of years both in the NHS and in private care in the UK and Ireland, when my own, positive experience of couples therapy lead me to re-train as a Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist. As a nurse, I felt that the greatest privilege of the work was to be found in the quality time spent talking to patients and their families, providing reassurance, sharing my knowledge and educating them about their conditions. Therefore the move to being a therapist in this field has afforded me just that.
My nursing background has proved extremely helpful in understanding the medical and physical presentations, treatments and implications of various sexual dysfunctions. Since making the transition to sex therapy I have never looked back. I am very excited about the future of our profession and I am very proud to be a Trustee of The College of Psychosexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT), who are pivotal in maintaining high standards for the profession and providing protection for the public.
The nature of the work that I do is extremely sensitive, and it would appear that whilst the subject of sex itself is no longer particularly taboo in Western society (indeed, the media would have us believe that everyone is having lots of good sex all of the time which undoubtedly raises our expectations of our own sexual performance), discussing and admitting to having problems with sex is taboo and often embarrassing. You might therefore ask why a Sex Therapist would start a public blog? Well, the answer to that is that I believe that part of my role as a Sex Therapist is to bring greater awareness to, and understanding of, a range of sexual and relationship issues, and raise the profile of sexual and relationship therapy so that talking about sexual problems normalises them. I also want to encourage the media to portray more realistic and healthy attitudes to sex and relationships. My hope is that this will encourage more people to seek help for their sexual and relationship issues. Over the next few weeks I will be posting on a number of sexual and relationship issues which I hope that you will find helpful. Please do not hesitate to get in touch if you have any questions as I would be happy to help wherever I can.