If your relationship is in crisis, it can be very difficult to see clearly how to move things forward in a positive way. Sometimes couples come to see us when things have become so difficult, and communication has broken down so much, that they don’t know whether the relationship can be saved. A Couples Therapist will be able to see things objectively and in a balanced way, helping you to understand what is going on, what your relationship patterns are, why you each react the way you do, and why the same issues seem to come up over and over again. Underlying problems are explored and through clarifying what the issues are (making the unconscious conscious), you can then begin to work on them. Skills are taught so that you can work on your relationship in between sessions, putting in to practice techniques that you are given in the sessions. Going through this process and really putting those techniques into practice can help you to decide whether the relationship can improve. If, however, it becomes clear that the relationship is just not going to work, and that parting ways might be the best option, a Couples Therapist can help you to part amicably and in the most constructive way possible. There are no guaranteed outcomes in any form of counselling, and a Couples Therapist will never try to encourage you to stay in a relationship that you don’t want to be in.